1959
I wrote a long essay about what happened today but erased it all so I could cut to the chase.
Today, I went on a date.
I met this guy a few months ago and thought there was just something really cool about him. And of course I was really attracted to him. But I never thought we’d ever go out on a date and actually have a chance at romance because…
He’s married.
But before you send me abuse and holler our “home wrecker!” he and his wife had been having issues way before I came on the scene. Today he confirmed he would be single sooner then later. And I’d just like to point out that whilst of course this is good news for me, I think it’s fucking awful this is happening for him and his family. As much as I like him, I’m not going to actively pursue anything. If he likes me as much as I like him, I don’t want to be the one that makes it easier for him to end a marriage.
Oh… and the other reason I never ever thought there would be a future, let alone a date, is the fact the guy is 49!!! Just in case you didn’t get that, that is FORTY NINE YEARS OLD. I mean, that is kind of disgusting that there’s a 2 year age difference between him and my mom, and to really put it into perspective, he was born in 1959, which not only means he saw the 60’s, but also the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s, OMG. There is a 25 years age difference between us.
It’s not like I haven’t tried to talk myself out of liking him. It would help if he wasn’t a creative (you know I’m a sucker for them) and if he actually looked his age instead of looking like a man in his late thirties…
Thoughts? Good arguments to end this is welcome. Calling me a home wrecker is not a good argument because the same could be said for the guy who cheated with his wife.
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hmmmmmm righto what the hey, I’ll jump in
I’ve tried it both ways, older and younger than me. It really makes no difference, its not age that counts it’s the person. I firmly believe that.
Right that said…………..25 years !!! holy cow, that’s two of you lol………hey if it feels right it feels right, contemplate this however he’ll be a pensioner in 15 years time and you’ll be what 40? and in your prime (40 being prime for women yes? ha what do I know) 25 is a lot though, just be careful that he’s in it for the right reasons and not just to stroke his ego, anyone say midlife crisis? that’s the important thing, he’s gotta be in it for the right reasons as do you, if you’re just looking for an older guy experience then go for it but if it’s long term (I dunno) then you need to cross the t’s and dot the i’s
hahahha listen to me giving out relationship advice, like I know anything………good luck
Comment by stu — October 12, 2008 @ 1:16 pm
mmm… during my last single time, I had a little fling with one of my friends, who happens to be 41. Initially I was all like “no big deal, he’s young at heart and doesn’t look his age” but when it really came down to considering whether we had a future, it was something that I couldn’t pursue.
We would never have children naturally, I would grow old alone, and despite us being completely on the same level- I would always feel like the child.
This is of course all very serious when you’ve only been on one date, but I thought I would throw it out there. He is old enough to be your dad
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Comment by Andge — October 12, 2008 @ 9:17 pm
Thanks Stu and Andge for your pov! Really loved reading your comments and experiences.
We went out again and I can already see the huge differences in lifestyle/ambition/goals/dreams. I want to go around the world and live in every city I’ve ever dreamt of visiting. He wants to settle and doesn’t even have any urge to travel.
I want more than a fling but starting to realize it might not be a great idea
And EWWW - Andge I can’t even bring myself to think about your last comment.
Comment by Stella — October 14, 2008 @ 2:11 am